I do hope things have settled a bit for you. I had it easy as a lot of what went on was hidden , if it was in my face like it was for you I dont know how things would have worked out.
There is still a lot of emotions I just "put away" for the want of a better expression so that I can focus on the big picture.
W would describe us as friends, I dont think we are there yet realy as friends is more than being tolerant of each other and civil.