It's been more than a week since I last posted here.

First of all, here's the incident following the talk two weeks ago I had with my WW's family: I had a spat with my FIL. Yikes, I know. First one ever. I'm not going to elaborate on it too much but it's been resolved. It just involves me feeling slighted by him when he referred to me in the third person when talking to my wife while I was in both their presence. I know, it's silly. So I confronted him about it and he didn't take kindly to it. Much later, I approach him again and apologize. I told him I didn't mean any disrespect and I appreciate all that he does for our family. Strangely, we're more cordial to each other now.

What precipitated my reaction I think is the fact a day or two had gone by since *the* talk with the family, and my FIL hadn't talked to my wife about her affair. And it puzzled me and angered me that he wouldn't give her a good father/daughter talk about how harmful her affair is to the family, especially the kids. It's not that I was expecting it but come on, no word at all? (I asked my wife, that's how I know). But in hindsight, I shouldn't have been surprised by it. Knowing his past - about how he carried on many affairs, known even by his kids at a young age - I should've realized he had no moral authority to do so. He talking to my wife and giving fatherly advice would've just prompted a "And? Why are you telling me this, Dad?" from my wife.

Hopefully, this (her past) and other issues will be addressed during our counseling sessions with our new therapist. We had our first joint counseling session last week since the initial one right after the bomb was dropped more than a month ago. My wife is willing to go and I see that as a good sign.

It's not a good sign, however, that she is choosing to see the OM still. She says she's not ready to let him go and that she's emotionally attached to him. This past Tuesday night, she told me she's spending time with him. She didn't come home until 4:50 am (sadly, I was waiting up for her and pretended to sleep). Her coming home that late (or early, whichever) was a first.

Another not-to-good sign is just this evening, she says we have to have a talk. She says that she will continue to see the OM one or two days a week, and Tuesday is one of those scheduled days. I then say, "Well, like we talked about, if you continue seeing him, you can't be staying here." And she says, "Sure, that's why I'll be cleaning up the room at the other house and I'll be moving out soon."

To be frank, I dread that move and I'm having second thoughts.