Hi Brian, First of all if you really don't want to ask W to leave, Don't. You and only you will know when that needs to be done. I actually got to the point where I asked H for a divorce and I meant it. That's when things started to turn around. My sitch is Not sure help if you would like to read it. I can understand the snooping and still would like to do so myself but have to really disapline myself not to. We have only been truly back together for about a month and it is very hard, my H works w/ the OW. Try to work on you that was a very hard thing for me. I know how hard this is I wish I could give so much more advice but I'm still new at this myself, but I am there for you. I have made alot of mistakes and it's normal I just wish I could have db'ed more before now and maybe it wouldn't have gone on as long as it did. I can help with what I did wrong. This is a very scarey thing I worry everyday, but IL my H so very much and am not willing to give up 16yrs. (half of my life) with him if we can get it back. Take a look at my posts there is some very good advice there from some fellow DB's. It might help, and it'll tell you alittle bit about my sit. Take care of you. Let me know what you think. ~~K~~
