Prayingforhope - Your situation must be very difficult. Thanks for posting. A friend of my W is having a problem with her husband being "addicted" to pornography. Your problem sounds like the female equivalent problem, except that it's more dangerous, since she has real contact with the people she is cheating with.
Not that I really know anything about this stuff, but I would think that your R is probably very saveable. It sounds like the main problem is getting your W to think of her problem as a problem, and not acceptable behavior.
I'm no computer expert, and have only recently looked into computer spying software. I don't remember the name of the program that I use (I'm at work now), but I'll try to get it for you. There are other programs that are probably at least as good as what I'm using. The following website sells many of the programs: Computer Spy Software Of the programs they sell, SpyBuddy seemed to look pretty good, but I don't really know.
Not knowing must drive you crazy. It does me. Good luck.
