Hi, I'm very sorry to hear about your sitch. It sound s very similar to what I went through with my H. We are now piecing, but I hear what you are saying about the whole sex issue. I have a very difficult time with it myself. Although it is great & all I always wonder about the OW, and feel very self conscious, humiliated and many others. And I always wonder if he thinks of her & if he'll do this to me again. Things are good right now and I am still DBing, but I think It will take me a long time. I can forgive and boy I would love to forget. I hope things get better for you I know how terribly hurt you are all to well. Did you find the monogamy thing? I would like to read that myself. My H put alot of the blame on me too, I do take some of it but I don't think anything should send you into the arms of another when you are M, its just so wrong. I hope you are feeling better, if it helps I still have my bad days (alot) when things just pop into my head unexpectedly. Take care of yourself. ~~K~~
