Is my WAW really done?

[christarn]

Brantacan, First welcome, and I'm sorry you have found yourself here. It is an awful place to be. I am a WAW, who is trying as hard as I can to get my H/R/M all back, I realize the mistake/s that I made when I left....so I will do my best to try to answer any and all questions that you may have.

I can't help but think that your W may be caught up in the "dream" of the OM has to offer. She is probably seeing in him qualities that she once saw in you....try hard to find who you were when the two of you first started to date. I read on one of the threads that the 180's that are the most meaningful are the ones that will stand out the most to your S. In other words, the thing that bothered her the most during your R/M, do the opposite. You are doing great work by being a friend to her. I think that for now doing that is your best option. Try as hard as you can to not get upset or angry, it will not work in your favor and she is probably looking for these types of reactions from you.

As for the email she sent you, that was harsh. I wish I could give you some wisdom on it, but I can not. I will say this....looking back on the last 6 months that I lived with my H, and the first 4 months in which we were seperated, I refer to myself in that time frame as the "mean angry monster!!" I can not believe some of the things I said, and did, but it was anger and resentment that I had built up inside of me, and unfortunatly my H and our R/M took the kick in the stomach for this anger.

I wish you all the luck in the world with your sitch. I know how it feels to want your S back and to not have that happening, just down right sucks, but keep your chin up. You can do this, you are doing it. Take it one minute, one hour and one day at a time.

If I can answer any questions for you let me know...I will try

take care
christarn