After 3 long years, H is home

[MichelleLT]

Wow. Sounds like he woke up on the wrong side of the bed! You are not a mind reader, and he certainly shouldn't expect you to be able to pick up on his every whim. (((GF)))

My H is also VERY sensitive to perceived criticism and I have had to be very careful about what I say. Actually, it's more HOW I say things than what I say. It's sooooo hard to be conscious of everything you say though.

About 30 seconds later, H knocks on the bathroom door and asks, "Are you going to help me?" I said, "No, I am not." He asked why not, and I told him because I didn't appreciate his tone, and I said that I was sorry that I didn't just drop what I was doing to come to him when HE wanted me to.

My response would have been "because you did not ask for my help."

I know you might not want this pointed out right this minute, but your response to his sarcasm was also very sarcastic and it seems to be a vicious cycle.