Patrick, I understand. BELIEVE ME I UNDERSTAND!!! I have chewed on 3 metric tons of ice because it has been since November 26, 2006 @ approximately 10:35pm since my last interaction with the fairer sex. My W left on Nov 27, 2006.
The fact is that you do not crave just the sex act, which is obvious by your posts. You appear to want someone for more than sex. I applaud that.
I am not saying this as a judgmental comment but to help a friend not make a mistake...you are still married and it would be adultery, no matter what your wife is doing. Two wrongs do not make a right. I have to remind myself of this every day because I have a high sex drive myself. Remember the ice?
Avoiding dating and sex with someone other than your wife is not to make you better than her. It is to be the man we all want to be. A man of honor and dignity.
I do encourage you to have a life. Get out with friends, preferably male since you and I both have an extreme weakness for the fairer sex, it would be an unbelievable temptation to hang out with women.
And I would block the dating sites from my PC if it is too difficult to avoid.
Again, I am not condemning you. I would have to take a plank out of my own eye first before I can ever judge someone else.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God