The thing is, and how many times have we said it, you have the distinction of being able to look back and hold your head up high because of how you have handled all of it. You are right and I wouldn't change this for the world!
So mourn, be upset, be sad, be disappointed. Give yourself some time to feel all of these emotions and then come on back to the real world
Thanks, Ian, well said!
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Lets take a look at Julie today:
1. SAHM- now supporting herself and her 2 girls. You forgot to mention that I doing a better job at it (and buying the girls' love in the meantime);) Thank you.
2. Reliant on H- Miss independant.... 'Nuff said...
3. Friends??? Look at the relationships you have forged since all of this started. Thank you and I wouldn't change any of this. I have been blessed as I was telling Bethie this morning. It's all a blessing. But, yeah, I am not used to having to face my emotions. And it's time.
It is all about perspective Jules, so absorb the loss, then focus on how amazing you are and all that you have accomplished while going through something that has devistated many others in your same position. You have a lot to be proud of....... Thanks, Ian, and proud I am. I appreciate the support more than you'll know.
We think that when we get to a certain point the grieving has been done and the marriage is water under the bridge, or so we convince ourself. Truth is that the finality of it all brings it all back to the surface. It was much more than a piece of paper that states it's now dissolved
I'm going to start calling you 'swami' or something. This is a pretty big piece of the puzzle.
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I'll repeat to you what you just told me this morning. What separates us from our spouses is our compassion & love. We know that this didn't have to happen and that our kids suffer because of it. We also know that we can go on and make a better life because of the type of people we are.
And I didn't think you were paying attention.
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For us, making our way through the tunnel brought us a divorce AND a whole new life, but we have to mourn the old one before we can fully appreciate the blessings ahead of us.
I love this. And to be honest, I've been waiting for the mourning to start. So, I am glad I'm here. But it's pretty different for me. SO, i'm holding on.
