this is maryangela -- have to start new thread

[NikB]

Just_Me - good point. Mary - we're enough past the point you're at that we're seeing what you need to do to get there, and maybe forgot about the "OMG my world is turning upside down" feeling. Well not forgot, but forgot to talk to you about it.

As Just_Me says yes, we are listening and we do understand.

Start small

Breath in
Breath out
...repeat

Eat a nutritious meal - if you can't stomach food, drink a protein shake (those are all I ate for weeks)

KNOW that you are a good, loving, lovable, worthy person. Tell yourself that - almost constantly, if you have to.

Find the positives in each day - no matter how small

Take the space that you need for yourself (even if you don't see right now that you need it, you do - I set up a room for myself but never 'moved' there and it was a big mistake, I feel I could have coped much better had I gotten that space)

Do something positive for yourself (start with small stuff, like the idea of flowers, redecorating your room, watching a movie - maybe one of your childhood favorites? - with your daughter...)

Make a plan for the times you know will be tough, like tonight

That's a good start to get you through these first very painful days.