You're misunderstanding me. I don't think you should waver one bit on your terms. I'm just encouraging you to communicate more hopefully to you your vision for the future of the marriage if she absolutely DOES follow the plan.
If she DOESN'T, I think the consequences for THAT should be equally clear (but you're not really having a problem with that part, LOL).
Usually, I'm encouraging just the OPPOSITE -- wanting folks on here to be FIRMER. I try to offer a perspective on what I feel is missing from each sitch.
