Patience is key

[addie]

Last night once again, H mentioned coming back to live here but it's mainly "for financial reasons" - he's paying for our place and rent where he's living now and can't afford both as his contract is ending soon. He mentioned nothing about wanting to recommit to the marriage.
The strange thing is he's been over here just about every single evening for over 2 weeks, makes more contact during the day, is a lot warmer when he speaks to me, and hugs me affectionately every time he leaves. I said we would have to talk about expectations if he were to come and live here. He asked me to email him (lately his preferred form of communication when dealing with R issues) what I wanted so that he could have time to think about it. We don't have a spare bedroom. So he would either be sleeping in our bed or on the couch.
I don't know what to say to him. I know there's still OW but he's seeing her much less as most of the time he is here. I've done a good job of detaching. I'm afraid that if he comes back, I'll have a harder time remaining detached and I'll start to develop more expectations. Living together would be temporary because S and I will me moving back to our hometown in a couple of months.

Any thoughts/advice???