Lol. I guess it depends - would it be a 180 for you to "stand up for her" or do you think she would see it as controlling?
Serious DBing aside, mostly I'm joking. If you guys are chatting and joking around, you can say anything you think won't freak her out short of starting a R convo.
It's all a matter of what you can take. My H has on a couple of occasions complained to me about OW, it's a VERY weird position to be in - but shows unconditional friendship and support which is a great positive.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2