Knowing your story, you are probably right about the results from my current course of action. My problem is trying to decdide if I really want to pay the price to change the situation. My wife has repeatedly said she will not go to any further counseling. I also believe that she does not think we are in a sexless marriage. (How can you miss something you don't care about) What are the odds of being able to hold the marriage together without sex? If I don't leave over her actions, does she stay as she is not missing anything important to her? It is hard deciding to be the bigger person or not. I do feel duped. She failed to tell me until recently that she quit sleeping with her ex right after they got married. I am starting to sympathize with the guy. We even filled out some pre marriage counseling stuff where she said once a day or so would be ok for her. I realize that I am being bitter about this stuff. I am trying to figure out how to get it out of my system so I can move forward.
