It's not all your fault. You didn't fail your sons. Yet, we all know, somewhere inside our loss of nerve ended up exasperating our wives and led them to darker paths. If you need to, go find a nice Catholic Church that is open for prayer, and go sit there for about half an hour. Tell God you are sorry. And let him forgive you. If you need to, tell your confession to Priest, and let him offer you the words of absolution. Cry if you have to. Wail. Scream.
Let it go.
And then..rise. Put the shame behind you. It's all been paid for. You know what I'm talking about.
Rise like a Phoenix from your ashes.
Theoden rose after letting his Kingdom fall to pieces.
Rise and take up your sword again.
The marriage may be over. But your life can begin anew. Your sons need a real man in their life. Make sure you stay in their lives. Fight for them. That fight might mean cooperating with your wife, it might mean only speaking though your lawyer to her. However, you need to stay in their lives.
