agree to NOTHING without getting counsel to review it. That will NOT cost a fortune no matter how your h tries to argue that it will. Maybe you should NOT mention the fact that you're seeing a L and say you need at least a few days before deciding. These are not simple matters and he is rushing things. Pressure from OW (?) and financial pressures (the money matters sound genuine but self centered).
As for trust, oh the irony. HE is making unilateral choices all around you, and letting you know after the fact. Yet he insists you are somehow stalling. Did he give you ANY heads up about these financial choices? If not, that isn't good faith.
Despite his not trusting you and admitting that, he is "giving you his word" about accounts/things and apparently you are supposed to accept without question. That's not fair. He expects trust FROM you, though he has violated it. Even if he justifies the A, which he'll do for at least awhile, how can he justify these unilateral choices and demand you trust him so much that NO lawyers be involved? Is he kidding? His behavior screams for a lawyer. Let him write something up if he wants but then YOU have a solicitor/lawyer read it carefully, revise it, etc. BEFORE you do anything else. Just talking with a lawyer doesn't mean you'll be "IN COURT FOR YEARS AND ALL THE DIRT WILL COME OUT AND THE LAWYERS WILL BE RICH AND WE'LL (well, I WILL) BE POOR .....!!!" That's a silly but common fear.
The questions I asked in my last email to you have been answered by his. I'd not mention anything specific (like the 6 months) because you lose in negotiations by being the first one to say a number. Or at least ask/demand for more than you expected.
SEE THE Solicitor NOW! Sign nothing without consultation with experts and a divorce lawyer may know a business lawyer to speak with as you have two very different sets of needs now.
having said all this, remember, none of this is truly irrevocable. Let him loose (with your kids' interests and your interests first, of course) and find the "freedom" he seems to want.
Interesting about the daughters. MANY men resent taking on the responsibilities of other men's kids, at least on this bb. Hmmmm. Don't know why, but I 've seen it a lot with WAH's. hugs!
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
