hey sad, I just read on your old posts that d isn't yours biologically, I wonder if she just doesnt' want to be hurt by staying close to you, since her mom seems to S permanently, perhaps she is just trying to protect her feelings, and you are right, 17 is a hard age.
Letting go is the hardest, i'm still struggling, and as another fellow Db tells me, years later, her "feathers" get ruffled. This is one of the most (asides from death) harroring and stressful events we'll eve have to go through.
Work on acceptance, it's the basis to it all, then, the GAL activities wont' just be distractions but...your NEW life, the path in front you. Sometimes we have to fake it til we make it. How many times at church people comment how well I look since I always smile to all who come by. I dont' smile 'cause all is well, I smile to lift myself up, as the cliche song goes "I smile so I dont' cry".
Therapy isnt' a bad thing Sad1, I'm heading that way soon, as soon as my C can fit me, I'm feeling crappy myself , i'm going through one of those unevitable stages of anger/denial , when we must purge all the hurt, they will happen, but I"m blessed to be able to say I've detached and accepted my H wants nothing with me and has chosen a whole different path for his life that doesnt include me. Not the path I'd like my life to take, but there it is, I can either make the best of it or live in denial and hurt.
A great book that's helping me is "the spiritual divorce", give it a try, hang in there)))))))))))))))))))
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
