Enjoying my life!!!

[kissak]

Thanks New attitude!

I have to say I felt a bit down earlier because my H texted me and asked me to explain "time to himself".

I talked to him around lunch and the more I talked, the more I just confirmed in my head what needed to happen. I told him more than once, and I know I should only have to tell him once, but I said "until you cut all contact with the OW, we will not have a fair chance"...told him we hadnt had a fair chance all along because of her. He actually agreed. He also agree for it to work that he needed to cut all contact with her, but then said he didnt think he could physically do that. He is obsessed with her (my words). So, I said to him "well, then I guess there is NO chance for us" ITs sad to me that he wont do what he know he NEEDS to do. He wont take the chance or risk. He is scared, I know it would be hard for him, I know this. It was hard for me to do it with him, but if he wants this to work, he has to make the decision to cut everything with her...he then told me that it sounded like I didnt trust him.....YOU THINK!!!!

He said he didnt want time to himself because he was afraid he might do something stupid...ok, well he is a grown man. I plainly told him 3 times that there was NO chance until the OW was gone. He also still has lots of work to do on himself. He kept stressing that he was only telling his feelings. I told him that I understood that and I was listening to his feelings, just as I hope he was listening and understanding mine.

I practically told him to go to her. He still would say that he wants a chance with me and he is just scared to take it....

I guess to him Im asking too much. Why should he give up his friend? If that is all they are? Duh...Maybe friendship could be there years down the road when she is in a stable R with someone else and we are in one.

Also, he is still confused with "love" verses "in love" feelings. Hes afraid the "inlove" feeling will never come back. He thinks it should be there now.

I really wish he would listen to himself sometimes...He knows what he needs to do, just wont do it.