Thanks for your post and suggestions. I suppose I am currently deciding if I can just manage without sex for the next however many years, so that may mean the status quo is acceptable (?).
I would agree with you about the suprise package of our sexuality had my wife been anything close to a virgin when we got married. She was not, so I do feel duped even having read the Sexless Marriage. What about marriage turns a woman off? I have also tried the sex education route, she is unwilling to experiment to try something different. I acknowledge that I could be a better lover and not only don't mind getting pointers, I find the whole experimenting thing to be fun! Our repretoire has actually diminished over the years with nothing new ever tried no matter what the suggestion or sources. Any suggestions on how to get my wife to actually pick up a book that might explain these kinds of things? The Rosenberg book sounds like a great idea, but how do you get someone who sees no need to change themselves to do something?
