Call it having been burned once and not wanting to experience it again I guess, but I simply would not be comfortable depending on him for your financial well being. I do believe you got spoiled just a bit by the fact that he continued paying for things while he was gone.

SF, he is saying some scary stuff, at least scary to me the way you have related it. I believe he's got some significant emotional issues going on. Even his refusal for counseling is a danger sign of someone who could potentially be facing a serious mental health issue. The constant drinking doesn't help either. Put that together with general paranoia and this sense that he's being used by those around him, wow, you've got quite the pressure cooker going on inside your man.

Unless you honestly believe this is an aberration of some kind, I would be trying to figure out how I was going to convince him to get some help. I'm serious SF, his words and actions would scare the hell out of me.

You will need a full time job at some point. I think I'd be exploring options if I were you.

Trust kids.

You listen to what your daughter said. They're not afraid to speak the truth.


I wish you the best.

Blessings,


Bill

"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."