Well we know how this goes, don't we? We think that when we get to a certain point the grieving has been done and the marriage is water under the bridge, or so we convince ourself. Truth is that the finality of it all brings it all back to the surface. It was much more than a piece of paper that states it's now dissolved.
I'll repeat to you what you just told me this morning. What separates us from our spouses is our compassion & love. We know that this didn't have to happen and that our kids suffer because of it. We also know that we can go on and make a better life because of the type of people we are.
Although I'm glad that I DB'd, for me (and also because I have gotten to meet the most amazing people), I stopped believing a longggggggggg time ago for any other outcome. I wish that I had not held onto "believe none of what they say and half of what they do" or "look for the baby steps". I see this journey for what it is. I used to sit back and hope for my ex to make his way through "the tunnel". I now feel as if we've gone through a tunnel as well. For us, making our way through the tunnel brought us a divorce AND a whole new life, but we have to mourn the old one before we can fully appreciate the blessings ahead of us.
