Don't have time to reply Going but Sara, my counselor and I have discussed letters vs. in person and he feels, and I agree, that sometimes with the really heavy stuff letters, email etc can be better because it takes the pressure off the person receiving the communication to have to respond at that time. He likes letters etc because you get your point across and the receiver can have time to think about it without the pressure of me sitting there looking at her waiting for a response.
Also, I like letters/emails because I'm an emotional person and sometimes in the heat of the moment things can come out that I don't want to say, so by writing a letter I can carefully choose my words.
Apparently I've not done that very well with this latest letter. I'll have to rethink it although I am done trying to be nice about this. I've been nice for going on 8 months and all it's got me is her abusing my niceness the whole time. And I'm just not in a very nice feeling mood right now.
But I'll think about it. I've decided I'm not going to give it to her/send it to her until probably Monday anyway, so I've got some time.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.