I know that I shouldn't snoop...but maybe you all need to hit me over the head and remind me why I shouldn't.

Here's the thing. If I hadn't seen that pic of H and OW kissing, then I would have foolishly gone on believing it never got physical. I mean I really believed him, he was very convincing. He never would have fessed up. After seeing it is when I decided to put my foot down and not let him continue to take advantage of me. I think seeing it helped me with that.

Would I be better off not knowing? I don't think so. It isn't like I can trust him to tell me what is going on. In my warped sense of thinking I feel like if I didn't snoop, then he would be free to carry on as many relationships as he wanted to....and I would just be blind to it. Is ignorance bliss?? Is it what you don't know can't hurt you??

I guess what I am saying is that the things I know...I wouldn't know if I hadn't snooped. Hell, I wouldn't have even known he was living with her. Would I be better off if I didn't know?....I mean it still happened.

I am not trying to condone my snooping or say that it is ok. I just want someone to help me see what is so wrong about it. I know it is a break of trust. I know that, and maybe that's the answer to my question. BUT, the reason I do it is because I no longer trust HIM.


Kris