WAW...now the LBS Part 2

[HOPEFULinCALI]

I have to continue to remind myself of the good stuff, the progress that we are making so I am journaling here.

Yesterday I was out at the bookstore when H called. I assumed it was for business. Normally I am the one working to engage him in conversation and I ask all the questions. This time it was the other way around. I was friendly but short on words. He was enthusiastic and seemed excited to talk to me. A brief synopsis:
H&M: (Greetings back and forth)
H: I haven't talked to you in a while I was getting worried about you. (jokingly) I have been calling all the hospitals.
M: I am fine. I have just been really busy.
H: Well you know you should come and hang out. We are supposed to be friends and you have a daughter you haven't seen (our dog). I rented some movies if you would like to borrow them (strange since 2 of the 3 are movies I would never pick out for myself).
M: Sure that would be nice maybe I can stop by. Would you like anything for dinner...
The rest is just us making plans.

So I went over and we had dinner and watched a movie. I did knock on the door when I went over so as not to act like a wife, but a friend visiting.

A few things happened while I was there. Nothing good or bad, but rather some things that I need to think about.

1. He was telling me about benefits that I can recieve as the spouse of a veteran (I guess he initially forgot that I am a vet also. Then he caught himself, but then continued to tell me).
2. He told me that he would be needing some help with the bills due to the fact that he will have some down time between his end of service in the Navy and the CHP Academy (this is 7-9 months from now and he is expecting me to be around).

He isn't treating me like a friend with all of his expectations. I don't know how to handle it. Something for my coach to tackle. I think part of it is that it is an old habit to lean on me. I don't think he has quite grasped the consequences of getting a divorce. Another part of me thinks that he is using the D and finances to blackmail me (i.e. if I don't help I don't have any rights to the house, or if I am not helping as a wife should then there is no reason to hold off on the D).

Thoughts?