So glad to hear you have a goal-oriented MC. I think that is crucial. Sounds like lots of good things, and good to keep your expectations in check. it's a hard thing to do when in a process of reconciling.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
I had to bring up some financial concerns with h on Monday, he immediately withdrew. I could almost feel the alien move in for a couple of days, but I backed off, didn't mention the subject again. Yesterday, he called me to talk about it- almost like he had a light bulb moment about what his $ actions are doing to me and the kids. He had a "plan" in mind about how to handle some financial things- good to see and I was proud of myself for not pushing on this.
He's been here every night this week, sleeping in the living room (not planned as far as I know). We've been planning a summer trip with the kids- quite a contrast to last year when he couldn't commit to doing anything with us.
JC today- it went well, we focused mostly on h's family issues. I told him that I was proud of him for trying to deal with these difficult emotions. Afterward, I may have slipped up on the DBing, but I asked him if he was going to put his wedding ring back on. He said he would. I joked about it a bit to try to lighten the mood. I have to keep telling myself not to expect to see it back on his finger too soon.
