As hard as it is to separate, it is excruciating to live w/ someone who can't stand the sight of you. I lived through that too, and it is agonizing.
FIB, what she accuses you of is what she is seeing in herself: you are her mirror, though you don't intend to be. She is acting in a way that is selfish, cruel and disrespectful and she assumes that everyone can see that and will pass judgement on it. Well, let her pass judgement on herself. You are doing a good job, no - a great one.
Take care of YOU, N
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