btw, someone (I think it was NOP, over on the old, pre-Valentine's Day Massacre SSM board) said this once (and I'm paraphrasing):
"Privacy is wanting the door to the commode closed when you're peeing. Hiding an affair is secrecy, and marriages shouldn't have secrets in them."
Your note does come across as unloving. As much as I can fully UNDERSTAND you feeling that way, and it may, in fact, be where you ARE right now, I do think that even if your wife WERE willing to work on this, she is probably thinking that it's too late.
And it may very well be. But if it is NOT, and if your offer is a sincere one, then I think you need to do a little editing to indicate that. I don't see anything in here that, if I were your wife, would make me feel like you still love me.
