Please help...need MLC advice

[tpaschal]

So, I just found out that the trial date is set for Aug. 4. Great. Less than a week before D5's birthday. Happy Birthday to you from your Dad, sweetie! <gag>

That was also the week I planned to take the kids on vacation, so not sure what I'll do now.

I met individually with the new C on Tuesday, and he is great. Said he is totally pro-marriage and has done some DB training sessions, but also was honest that my H is very resistant and it may be YEARS before he comes to any self-awareness of what he's done, if ever. Said that he would do everything he could to help lead H to some self-awareness, but you know the cliche---you can bring a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. I told the C I am still standing, but want him to help me come up with some goals and strategies and techniques for getting on with MY life, and to help me deal with the denial, grief and acceptance. C said he would do that and would be honest with me and give me "reality checks" when needed. Hmmm...do you think he meant 2x4's? LOL!

This is a hard place to be in. I still want my M, I'm still standing for my M, but I'm trying to surrender it all to God. It's hard for me finding a balance between leaving a door open for "someday, maybe" and moving forward and leaving the outcome up to God.

That's where I hope the C and you guys who have "been there, done that" can give me pointers!