Supermom and the Brighter Tomorrow

[JennyF]

Kerry,

I want to warn you of something that might happen somewhere down the way which I encountered recently. My D5 has been referring to OM as daddy. And she thinks she now has 2 daddies. This is going to hurt you if ever you hear your D say that she has a 2nd mommy. Just realize that kids have weird perception of reality and some of it is fantasy.

I had this discussion with H yesterday that calling her by anything other than her name is unacceptable. And that as S learns to talk....if he says mama it should be corrected. Just like you'd correct it if he called Grandma that. He agreed.
I know there will be confusion. My hope is that is R with OW self destructs before those things happen...but I am aware of the reality of it. I am much closer to my step dad than my dad...but I can probably blame a lot of that on my Dad and his lack of effort. That won't be an issue for my kids.

I wonder, in the case of you or I happening to remarry someone else in the future, how our ex-spouses will feel when our kids mention to them that they really like our new spouses and think of them as a second parent.

I wonder this too. I told H that I want to meet OW and I need to know more about her and her kids. He thinks I should just trust his judgement, I said I would expect him to want the same if I was moving in with someone. He said he would trust me...that kind of bothers me... and I think it's BS. It's easy for him to say that at this point in time...I like you wonder how he will feel when it actually does happen! Especially because that man will be twice the man that he is!!

Thanks for the feedback.
J~