"Saru mo ki kara ochiru."

[Nutty Chick]

FIB.

Maybe a 180 for you is saying what you feel?? What have you got to lose? (I don't imagine you to be the type to say anything vindictive or hurtful ... just what you feel (as above))

One 'complaint' I would have about my STBXH is that .. he would never say what he felt .. he always tried to keep the peace for a quiet life. This was harmful in two ways. Firstly, it made me have very little respect for him and secondly, he stored loads of anger and resentment up. Saying what you feel and getting things out in the open is so much better and healthier. Yea, sure, your W may not like it, It may rattle her cage cos she must be so used to you 'keeping the peace' But it may well earn you a little respect from her in the long run and it is a good lesson for your son to show him that it is OK to stand up for what you think and feel is you do it in the correct manner.

NC