"Saru mo ki kara ochiru."

[faithisbelieving]

In the fall of 2006, October, while pumpkin-picking with the kids for Halloween, my W told me that she felt 'smothered'. Well, now, I feel smothered by her anger and hate. Without going into heavy details, my son became upset last night when his cousin from across the street, after a nice evening of hanging out with him, told him that his younger cousin 'tattled' on them...with regards to playing an army video game. My son became very upset.

Recall that this younger cousin was the one involved in the bus fiasco....that my W tried to have him forced into one seat on the bus and then wrote a letter to the superintendent. Ironically, she is his godmother. Of course, my W takes an offensive position against my sister's 5 year old son.

I took my son upstairs to talk with him...to try and teach him how to handle himself and his cousin...and to try and avoid my W's poisoning my son against his cousin (she advocates telling the school bus driver, the principal, etc whereas I try and teach him to handle himself, stand his ground if he is being pushed or shoved, and that he is older, taller and should have courage to stand firm and take care of himself). My W followed me upstairs to the bedroom and interjected from time to time, but, some of her comments I could support.
As I began to leave, for the first time, I said something that I was 'afraid' to say during my 'save the marriage mode' last year. "XXX....please...teach him to take care of himself...not to plant seeds of anger".
She got really pissed off at me...I got a 'how dare you say that to me."
This morning, as S7 got on the bus, my W thought I was smiling or laughing at her as I waved goodbye to S7. She stormed past me and slammed the door in front of me, then, came back in:
"what are you angry about?"
"How dare you laugh at me while I am in pain. How cruel....it shows how you have a cruel streak deep inside of you."

???????????????????????????????? I said nothing.
FIB