Sounds great GH31. I'm a little wary since she's got a kind of "you go first" attitude. The scary thing is she's essentially saying she relies on you to basically make her happy.
That being said, the first step is to actually have her back and committed to the marriage. You can't keep playing LRT and maybe shouldn't have before. She probably craves loving words and words of affirmation. There is no harm in giving them. You should show you love her.
There is one thing I would mention. I think it's okay to express your own reservations. You reassured her. I think it's fair that she reassure you. I'd essentially parrot what she wrote to you..."I need to know that you are committed to work on our future together. That means, if we have difficulties in the marriage (as everyone does), that you intend to stick it out and work to make it better. And that you intend to discontinue contact with OM."
If she can't commit to this stuff, then it might be a waste of a trip.
Me
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
