I really need help. HOW can I detatch while he is doing this now basically without care and so blatenly? (sorry for misspellings). I know I have to detatch and maybe it will get easier but I cannot believe the lack of respect right now.
That should make it easier. He doesn't care whether you're privy to what's going on with OW. Doesn't that make you want to take a step back?
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He is also not coming home tonight, as he informed me. We have a large house so being separate isn't a problem logistically, just emotionally. We can't sep. right now for financial reasons.
I would move his stuff out of your closet tonight and into a different bedroom. Remove his toilettries from the bathroom. If you won't be around to clarify things, then leave him a note that says, "I've moved your things to xxxx." No further explanation should be necessary. Get in the mindset that he's your roommate.
I'll repeat my suggestion that you get out a couple nights a week. Give yourself space and treat yourself to something that you enjoy. Surround yourself, if possibly, with people that do treat you well. Do your best to connect really well with your kids.
I agree with you...get your legal ducks in a row. With any luck, you won't have to go that route, but it's better to have consulted with a lawyer and at least got some of the groundwork done.
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