I love coming and reading your thread Steve - there is so much hope here!!! I don't often say anything because you get such excellent support - but I wanted you to know that I am still here - reading along.

I get exactly where your W was coming from with the rejection thing and you not waking up; I got that once with my H and so I never try to wake him up and it does make me hesitant about intiating things - and we've been married over 21 years and have 4 children!!! Women are very complex creatures- poor men ;\)

I noted your comments about OM not having so much to offer. Apparently that is quite common in A partners-people tend to trade down. I think it can be a sign of their insecurity. You KNOW you are the better option - and it looks very much to me that your W does too.

ps. didn't reply to the joke because I didn't get it.....and yes....I'm blonde ( and I feel stupid I can't get it)

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength