Hey all, I have a topic over in "I need help for my marital problems". I started that thread before we speperated so my deal has changed.
Here is a brief overview,
Me:33 Her:28 Son:2
Married 4 years, together 10, she moved out 2-27-08, told me 12-05-07 she wanted a divorce, I have son everyday from 1-7, 2-3 nights a week.
Marriage was rocky for 6 months prior to this, We both thought things would just get better.
Went to IC and marriage counseling for 6 weeks, she is still going as far as I know.
She said she never should have married me, wasn't in love when we got married, has no feelings for me, I'm not the kind of person she wants to be with, she has changed as a person. Etc. etc. She never has said ILYBNILWY, she just says she doesn't love me.
She dropped all this on me when I looked at her phone and found text messages from her to my friend, I investigated the phone records and found her and him had been texting or calling almost daily for months. He lives 2000 miles away so if they ever hooked up it happened when he was visiting. She still won't explain her situation with him and basically says I'm crazy and there is or was never anything going on.
Since then I snooped ,went crazy and tried to find out all information I could, it backfired. She knows I don't trust her and I still never found the answers I'm looking for and I realize I never will.
When she moved out, she said we'll do family things all the time, have dinner as a family, She said she would stay at the house a few times a week so son could be here. That lasted a week then she pulled way back. To be expected I know.
She says she isn't ready to date or has any intention or desire to date.
We havent had any relationship talks since a a week or two before she moved out.
I intiate no calls or texts she does both first. She has made it clear that she won't answer any questions about her personal life. So I don't ask them.
I have been doing some small 180's getting back into some hobbies I haven't done in along time. Giving her her space.
So my questions are: 1. Why does she seem so angry still after being out 6 weeks?
2. Do I believe her about not dating? Or is there someone already in the wings?
3. Why the need for so such secrecy?
4. Will she ever remember anything good about the marriage? Or will she need to lie and hide from herself for a long time
In the last week she has called more then she has been. It appears to me that she is checking up on me. Ok I will elaborate more later. I guess the whole looking pissed at me and seeming so mad at the world thing is what I don't get.
