I have been following your situation and I believe we have to go through all of this cr*p to get to the point where we find our boundaries. In the beginning we are all willing to fall all over ourselves to make nice, make them forgive us(for whatever we have done), beg, plead...well you get the picture. Then it seems to come with such clarity, why couldn't we just do this from the get go? They have held the control of the situation for so long, that we have all felt helpless and now we find ourselves stronger and can say this is what has to happen for me to participate in this marriage any longer. I hope the best for you. You deserve it. kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
