I want to thank those of you who come and visit everyday and bang your heads against the wall giving me advice. I do take it to heart and try to follow it. I am not going to be posting for awhile. I think it is obvious one of my biggest problems is my inability to detach. For this reason I cannot set boundaries because I am so concerned what is going on as soon as I set them.
I am thinking part of my difficulty detatching is that while the goal is to GAL and focus on me, I spend A LOT of time everyday focusing on H, what he is thinking, what he is dong, what will he do if I do this, if I say this, if I write this letter. I post on here and read all day long at work and whenever he isn;t home, I speak to the employee assistance counsellor everyday and a couple of concerned frineds call daily to see what happened last night. This results in me spending the majority of my day talking about H, people disecting his every move and thought and mine. I can understand why I can't detach when his every move and possible thought is all I think and talk about. Thank you all for your efforts, your concern and your constant support.
Denise
Last edited by neecy22; 04/10/0811:38 AM.
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
