Your son is so young! If you want to stay w/ your W, it will take awhile to work through the emotions you are having right now, but I warn you NOT to keep throwing it into your W's face, or SHE may end up deciding to leave.
I would say see if she will go to counseling w/ you. That would be the best case scenerio. Otherwise, just keep talking to your W, but don't "punish" her for her A. It was a long time ago. Not sure why she waited untl now to tell you, but if you REALLY want to stay married, you are going to have to work through this WITH your W.
Like I said, and I cannot stress enough, DO NOT punish your W or make her feel like she needs to *prove* anything to you right away or you may just push her away.
You need to tell her how hurt you are, but that you want to work through this and stay married.
Also, you need to look at yourself and see what changes you can make to make your M a better one. The internet porn in itself, in MY opinion, is kind of like cheating as well. She is not the only one *at fault* here.
Others can probably refer you to some books that could help you.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
