SF, the drinking aside, was your Hs behaviour the same before the original bomb or is this me me me attitude a product of his MLC? I'm asking b/c if he was like this before he has clearly thought in his own mind that he could come back as if nothing has happened and nothing has changed. If however it is part of his MLC then it is a residuary symptom and like all illnesses it will take time to 'heal'. If anyone can do this you can. Take care
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15