H is Having Affair after all - Part 2

[Evie]

Jen, Saffie, & 25yrs,

Jen, good question - not sure of the answer, maybe he is looking for a reaction, he will know i don't want to lose my home.

25 yrs - i'm sorry, but I didn't really understand your reply, would you clarify for me, are you saying that you think there maybe hope, but he wouldn't admit thats what he wants? If so then why is he pushing so hard to get everything sorted and move on?
No h hasn't wanted to ML, we were up until he left but not since, he was getting that with ow.

What he thinks has been going on for 7 months, is the current situation of seperation. He is saying it can't continue indefinately like this, That now its all out in the open lets start getting the ball rolling by selling house etc and no he hasn't got his head round the fact that the knowledge of his affair has caused me to have a set back, that's what infuriates me, he seems really calculating.

Saffie & 25 yrs - it's my belief that h has been trying to let me down gently. I believe he had a long term plan and knowledge of the affair was not meant to be known. I believe he wanted to keep me sweet and then casually suggest that maybe it's now time we consider selling the house?

Lets bear in mind that he committed to this new flat before the affair became public, at a time when we were getting on well, so now it is out in the open maybe his plan has backfired?

So maybe i'm answering your question here Jen and that would be that H doesn't expect me to fight for the house etc? Who really knows.

I see the solicitor tomorrow, i'm dealing with 4 issues
House
Property in france
business
maintenance

I want to acknowledge his text and have drafted the following response, which i may send later on today, i really don't want to be dealing with these issues whilst at work:

I am not ignoring you; I'm just trying to understand the implications of your proposal.

H,
It may have been 7 months for you, but I always had hope, so it's actually only been 1 month since I realised that you have moved on. I am still recovering from the shock and dealing with the emotional repercussions from our family, especially DD & S1.

I find myself in a situation not of my choosing and am now having to consider an uncertain future.

What I and my children need right now is stability and time, which does not entail immediately loosing our home - please give me the 6 months that you had to move forwards and plan. I ask for your patience and I hope you trust me that I am thinking very hard about what is fair for all of us.

I realise that things need to be sorted, but it is too soon for me to make any major decisions while I am still coming to terms with this situation.

E


Is it too long? Anything that is controversial, leave in or take out?

I'm really trying to play for time here, i'll compromise on the 6 months. The house won't sell straight away anyway. Last night I thought to myself that maybe from an emotional point of view i need to break all ties with him asap(except the boys). He is coming into the house and lingering longer than i'm comfortable with, he texting and emailing me at work about non-urgent stuff that I have already asked him not to and i just think is staying in the house and continuing with the business worth the hassle?

X Evie