Hey brother.... not a whole lot of advice for you... Your doing as best you can and...well... that is all that can be asked of you.
When it comes to dealing with your STBXW.... do not take it personally. Stop blaming yourself, you did not cause her infidelity...... You might have dealt with depression but that is no reason for her to do what she has done. If things go the way my sitch has....her venom will continue to show when she is not getting her way. Then some what normal person shows up when she is.... Guess what... She is no longer your problem.. She has chosen this destructive path... Unfortunately you have to accept that decision....(it sucks.. I know...) But guess what? Life goes on... You will be involved in your sons lives.... You are their dad, she cannot change that fact. Stay out of her petty games and take the high road. Your kids will respect you for it in the long run.
You will be fine.. There is life after all this non-sense... Yes, I still think/believe D is non-sense.. But it is what it is. You have to accept the fact that she has the free will to choose what she is choosing..... As you know already know.. what is our faith unless we have the free will to choose to believe.
You will be OK.... You have my email if you ever need it.
