IMP - sure good to read your thoughts. One thing I gotta love abobut you -- you dont mince words- you say that which we often don't want to hear but what is so often best for us!!
Kissak --first my friend here is my biggest thought..you ready?
Your daughter - lets say she is hmm 18 and she has been madly in love with a guy and they have been dating for a good solid year- then he cheats. She takes him back and it continues for another year...lets even say 2....now she is 20...in the interum he has played around a little and she always takes him back BECAUSE SHE LOVES HIM and BECAUSE HER LOVE IS TRUE AND PURE AND LOYAL...he goes back to her because she is "safe". WHAT WOULD YOU SAY TO HER IF HE DID IT YET AGAIN AND THEN SAID....."I still love sally but i want you too???"
I sure hope you said that you would take that wonderful daughter of yours and have a good heart to heart with her. IF HE/and yes your H too REALLY want YOU my friend that YOU DESERVE TO BE COURTED AND CHASED after a bit. I am not talking about the typical dating stuff...I am saying that he needs to EARN the RIGHT to be in your bed again. THINK IT THROUGH.....YOU deserve it!! Do you love him? want to be with him? CRAVE to have him by you YES YES YES!! BUT MY FRIEND YOU DESERVE TO BE TREATED WITH DIGNITY AND RESPECT!!
I am NOT saying to say never. I AM NOT!! I KNOW your heart- I know you love him. But IMP is right----HE NEEDS to get his head out of his very big A** HOLE and stop being an A** HOLE!! He needs to keep goign to C and he needs to keep working on himself so that he can come home some day!!!
Sorry - but i have watched your pain. YOU DESERVE TO BE TReATED WITH DIGNITY AND RESPECT! NOT TO BE MANIPULATED!
It is all up to you - you know that!! Follow what you know to do..it is harder than giving in...respect yourself my friend...it doens't mean forever. IF HE WANTS YOU NOTHING WILL STOP HIM!!
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
