she'll notice MORE in a way, b/c she's seeing you less than if she were with you on a daily basis. But obviously you will have to see her sometime. And you will. She'll come around the boys at some point, unless they're making her feel too guilty and she's hoping they cool off. Sometimes the kids act nicer around the WAS b/c they fear losing the WAS again, more than they'd fear the LBSer leaving. Or they get angry at the LBSer, b/c they can't show their anger at the WAS.
Eventually, your W will see them, and that means she'll either see you, or hear about you. Remember that I've had family members actually divorce and remaarry their ex's s few years down the road. Crazy, but the 2nd time around WAS better.
On the whole, this does scream two things to me: your depression sucked out a lot of her emotional energy, so she's trying to "save herself" AND the other thing that strikes me is MLC for her. Certainly her age is "appropriate" for it. And the dumping of all the family ties and committments. Since you're working on the depression issue, and it IS showing, you're on the right track no matter what. Hang in there. She's noticing more than you think, even when she doesn't see you. She hears about it, or thinks about it, or is reminded of you and you are countering those negatives with positives every chance you get. (( j- ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
