Thank you for the HUGS new_attitude!! I sure need them right now.
To gabbysmom23, I agree there is probably OW. My H said the same thing that he didn't love me any more. I asked him was there someone else, he kept telling me over & over that there was no one, he just needed to find himself, that I had tried to mold him into something he was not!!! What a line, I realize it now but at the time I didn't. He stayed in the same house with me(in the guest room) for 5 months after he told me. During this time (3 weeks after he told me he wanted a D) I discovered how to use his blackberry phone (while he was out mowing the yard) & found an email message to OW, the subject was "Your Man" & it was sickening!!! I decided to keep quite at the time but when he came in for dinner I snapped at him & he got mad & left, I didn't snap at him for any reason I just did, I can't believe I didn't say anything about OW. When he came back I talked to him & ask him again if there was someone else, he said no. The day before he was to leave on a "business" trip (he met her there) I asked him again & he said no & he was tired of me accusing him of it. I knew all along he had someone but he kept lying to me. He had never done that before. Snooping is very hard, but if I had not done that I would not have found out about OW. I became a pretty good PI but I don't recommend it. I did some for legal reason, he spent a lot of our money on her. He got 200.00 cash out of our joint account, went & bought her earrings for her B'day, paid cash but the jewelry store has everyones name so I went & got a copy of the receipt for my attorney. I had a report run on her & that's how I knew about her B'day, how old she was & how many times she had been married. By the way, she is 1 1/2 years older than my H, I've seen a picture & she looks like someone who sleeps around. She goes afer the men with money & I think my H has pretended he has money, which he doesn't.
I'm like you, I thought before I got married that if my H ever did that to me I would never forgive them, but until you are in that position you never know what you will do.
I'm devasted that he has moved. I keep hoping one day he will wake up & come back to me before it's too late. It is MLC but he has taken it to the extreme.
gabbysmom, keep posting, you get excellent advice from people. I also feel your pain & especially with a baby!! Do get the books from DB & if you can talk to a counselor. You are only about a month into this so maybe things can turn around for you.
Me 47 H 48 Married 15 years Dated 3 years 2 dogs (I have custody)
