"Saru mo ki kara ochiru."

[Nutty Chick]

Thankyou so much for this post.

I found amongst it 3 of the reasons that I filed today.

But..love ISN'T supposed to hurt...not like this,


I came to the conclusion that my M had become destructive to me as a person and that for me, the hope for reconciliation was, in fact, a form of denial.

I asked myself...would my children suffer MORE....if I stayed with my W...and I said 'yes'.

I don't feel filing is an 'abominable' thing to have done. I feel that to have carried on standing and hurting and letting my son watch me waste away mentally, physically, and spiritually would have been abominable.

I am walking away with dignity and a peaceful heart. My H is a sad man. He is no longer the person I married. If I met him today, as he is, I wouldn't give him a second glance. Like your W he needs a huge amount of psychotherapy. Like your W he has a grubby little band aid holding him together. Like your W he will, no doubt wake up one day and realise what he has lost and the damage he has done.

And of course DBing will go on. Because it is about more than saving a marriage, its about a way of life and being a better person. It’s about human behaviour and compassion. It is about becoming the kind of person you hope to meet one day. It’s about being proud of yourself and the decisions you make.

You can and should be proud.

God Bless FIB.

NC x