Originally Posted By: grumpyeby
He actually got mad at ME yesterday when he called me at work and I wasn't overjoyed to hear his voice...WTF?


Sounds similar to my H. He gets all butt-hurt if I don't show the kind of level of enthusiasm he wants to see from me. To him, it means that I don't love him (he told me this).

So when my H calls or arrives home from work, even though sometimes it's a bit difficult after having detached so much over the last 3 years, I act cheerful, upbeat, and make him feel as if it's truly good to see or hear from him. The same way I would act as if a good friend called or came by to see me.

Even if/when you're feeling disappointed with H's recent choices/actions, you have to let it go and act AS IF it never happened. Right now, it's the only way to keep the peace, and if we can manage to make our Hs feel loved by us, then in return, we might be able to get a little of what we want from them.

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She says all of the tests are negative and as much as I want to believe her...NOT, I wondered if he could find out for sure and of course, I'm trying to start a fight. WHATEVER!!!!


In his mind, you're prying for information and getting into something that he doesn't want to talk about. He probably sees it as 'nagging', although we don't see it that way.

You're clean....YAY! .....so let it be. That's all that really matters. \:\) I would, however, insist on using protection if you become intimate with H again.

Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell