There are no lawyers involved as he has yet to file. My mother did take the liberty of informing her friend, a lawyer, of my sitch and I plan on speaking with her to know my legal rights.
When I did see L months ago, I was basically scared and miserable. But, it does help. It lets you know what you need to know. Now, it gives me a certain strength and peace knowing what my W can and cannot do.
Having said that, be careful of your well-intentioned friends and family. They are trying to think of you. They don't want you to hurt anymore. And they, generally, don't really care about your feelings toward your spouse and they don't feel the same about them either. Had a relative a week ago, ask repeatedly what has been happening with my sitch. One of three people I will talk about this stuff. Really didn't feel like it but she insisted. I got about 4 sentences out before it was "just be done with her", etc...Down to two now...lmao. Consider yourself very lucky indeed to have someone to talk to face to face that sees your feelings and is working to help you not end things for your R/M. I know you know this...wastin' more postin' space...
