The drinking was far worse just before the bomb in August '05 thru June '06 when he left. It is not as bad now at all. He can stop cold turkey if he wanted but that would force him to face the demons head-on,and right now, he would rather self-medicate as he claims to be under so much stress. I can understand that.
As for my kids and chores. They are old enough to do many things. Getting them to do it is a different story.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
