>>I have done my best to keep my responses as busines like as possible but I got to admit I have not been perfect on that one...<<

Well D can be hugely emotional. It's a very challenging time for anyone. And it only makes it more challenging when a spouse is out of control.

But you sound really good. I think you understand that staying business-like and avoiding as much emotional conflict as possible will only be better for you. High five!!!

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.