Help me act AS IF, Thread 4

[newnamenewlife]

What is crazy is that we recently finished renovating the house so that we could use the third floor for us. We had renters before. We took out a huge main wall.

I guess these things evolve and it becomes clearer whose needs/boundaries take precedence in which situations. My feeling is that, by choosing to move out, my H is opting to no longer be a resident of our house--just like I am not going to be a resident of his crappy little apt. I'm not comfortable with being half-separated, and I also want him to feel the hugeness of what he is choosing. I'm part of a package deal--you want a nice house, yard, family life, then you gotta find a way to love me, baby!